Women have an extraordinary ability to withdraw from the sexual relationship, to immunize themselves against it, in such a way that their men can be left feeling let down and insulted without having anything tangible to complain of.

Doris Lessing

Doris Lessing

Profession: Novelist
Nationality: British


Women have an extraordinary ability to withdraw from the sexual relationship, to immunize themselves.. Doris Lessing

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