You must walk a long while behind a wild goose before you find an ostrich feather.
You must knock a long while against an alder-bush before you get a swarm of bees out of it.
You must judge a maiden at the kneading trough, and not in a dance.
You must be strong to pull a rope against a stronger.
You may take a horse to the water, but you can't make him drink.
You may speak with your gold and make other tongues silent.
You may get something off a bone, but nothing off a stone.
You may gain by fair words what may fail you by angry ones.
You may force an ox to the water, but you cannot make him drink.