I definitely agree with choices for women, but I do not agree with choices for women when they eliminate choices for men. Rather, I think that the sexes need to make choices that lead to the maximum amount of win-win for both sexes.
Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.
If a man belittles a woman, it could become a lawsuit. If women belittle men, it's a Hallmark card.
Men have not stacked the decks against women.
I'm an awfully loyal friend. Once I've started a relationship with someone, it's like they are syrup and I'm a pancake. Their syrup gets into my pancake, so to speak.
Every movement has radicals. But the important thing is that the radicals are not the leaders.
You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income.
Women are the only 'oppressed' group that is able to buy most of the $10 billion worth of cosmetics each year; the only oppressed group that spends more on high fashion, brand-name clothing than its oppressors; the only oppressed group that watches more TV.
I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege?
Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men.
Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
In our society, the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard.
Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal.
The average full-time working male works more than a full-time working female.
All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose.
It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men.
The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children.
The only men who aren't in fear of women's reactions are usually men who aren't born or who are dead.
So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
I'm a great supporter of women who take risks and don't make victimhood into an art. It's not good for women, and it's not good for men. Too many men put all their emotional eggs in one basket - a woman's basket.
It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible.
The women themselves say they're far more likely to care about flexibility. The men say, 'I'm far more likely to care about money.'
Is there discrimination against women? Yes, like the old boys' network. And sometimes discrimination against women becomes discrimination against men: in hazardous fields, women suffer fewer hazards.
People who work 44 hours per week make 50 percent more than people who work 34 hours a week.
Feminism justified female 'victim power' by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.
Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
While girls average a healthy five hours a week on video games, boys average 13. The problem? The brain chemistry of video games stimulates feel-good dopamine that builds motivation to win in a fantasy while starving the parts of the brain focused on real-world motivation.
A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.
For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles.
In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.
Once boys' and men's challenges are clear, the question 'why now' quickly becomes 'why didn't we see this sooner?' The answer? Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable.
After years of research, I discovered 25 differences in the work-life choices of men and women. All 25 lead to men earning more money, but to women having better lives.
Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men.
The problem is that Americans care more about saving whales than saving males.
Men move through a much different process before commitment than women do.
Financial analysts make a lot more than accountants.
Let's face it: men do a lot of things in the workplace that women just don't do.
We take men's obligation to earn money, and when they do it well, we blame them for having power and being oppressors. And when they don't do it all, women just don't marry men who are reading 'I'm Okay, You're Okay' in the unemployment line.
Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement.
A woman with organizing skills can run a construction company without ever picking up a hammer and nail.
A lot of young men are frustrated and looking for someone to blame.
For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
And with the rape, I was showing why the rape statistics are exaggerated, and saying that date rape was much more complex than the way feminists had portrayed it, as men oppressing women.
Because of the feminist perspective, we have gotten a view of the world that is distorted.
Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child.
We always look at the 'Fortune 500,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.
