Meditation is not the construction of something foreign, it is not an effort to attain and then hold on to a particular experience. We may have a secret desire that through meditation we will accumulate a stockpile of magical experiences, or at least a mystical trophy or two, and then we will be able to proudly display them for others to see.

Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn't depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us.

For all of us, love can be the natural state of our own being; naturally at peace, naturally connected, because this becomes the reflection of who we simply are.

When our focus is on seeking, perfecting, or clinging to romance, the charge is often generated by instability, rather than by an authentic connection with another person.

Mindfulness isn't difficult, we just need to remember to do it.

TO RETEACH A THING its loveliness is the nature of metta. Through lovingkindness, everyone and everything can flower again from within. When we recover knowledge of our own loveliness and that of others, self-blessing happens naturally and beautifully.

We like things to manifest right away, and they may not. Many times, we're just planting a seed and we don't know exactly how it is going to come to fruition. It's hard for us to realize that what we see in front of us might not be the end of the story.

Fearful of wasting a second, we hoard time as if it were money.

We have to know ourselves to know where we end and another person begins, and we have to develop the skills to navigate the space between us. Or else we will seek wholeness through false means that honor neither us nor those we love.

As we look around, it's very clear that in this world people do outrageous things to one another all of the time. It's not that these qualities or actions make us bad people, but they bring tremendous suffering if we don't know how to work with them.

Forgiveness that is insincere, forced or premature can be more psychologically damaging than authentic bitterness & rage.

The causes of familial discord and distance are countless, but the results are often the same: secrecy, blame, sadness, hurt, confusion, and feelings of loss and grief.

Compassion Judgment Loving-Kindness Compassion Is A Force Disconnection Self-Blame and Compassion Praise and Blame.

In our own lives and in our communities, we need to find a way to include others rather than exclude them. We need to find a way to allow our pain and suffering, individually and collectively.

Mindfulness may help you gain insight into your role in conflicts with others, it won't single-highhandedly help you resolve them.

By accepting and learning to embrace the inevitable sorrows of life, we realize that we can experience a more enduring sense of happiness.

Protection, as we use the word in Buddhism, is actually wisdom, it's insight. Protection is seeing and knowing deeply that all things in our experience arise due to causes, due to conditions coming together in a certain way.

The notion of loving oneself has gotten an undeservedly bad rap, which goes something like this: self-love is narcissistic, selfish, self-indulgent, the supreme delusion of a runaway ego looking out for number one. In fact, just the opposite is true.

Can we allow the lives of others to be different from ours and feel happy for them? Can we rejoice for them as their happiness grows, in whatever way that is happening?

The paradigm for our relationships is formed from our earliest experiences and is actually hardwired into our neurological and emotional network.

We're capable of much more than mediocrity, much more than merely getting by in this world.

The heart is a generous muscle.

Evolutionary biologists tell us we have a negativity bias that makes our brains remember negative events more strongly than positive ones. So when we're feeling lost or discouraged, it can be very hard to conjure up memories and feelings of happiness and ease.

When we identify the thoughts that keep us from seeing others as they truly are we prepare the ground for real love.

Respecting differences while gaining insight into our essential connected-ness, we can free ourselves from the impulse to rigidly categorize the world in terms of narrow boundaries and labels.

Self-love is an unfolding process that gains strength over time, not a goal with a fixed end point.

It's important to be aware of how multitasking can stimulate us into mindlessness, giving the illusion of productivity while stealing our focus and harming performance. When you are walking, walk. When you are sitting, sit, is ancient wisdom.

Genuine awe connects us with the world in a new way.

When we direct a lot of hostile energy toward the inner critic, we enter into a losing battle.

Develop a mind so filled with love that it resembles space.

Smiling at someone can have significant health consequences.

The fulfillment we have in owning, in desiring, is temporary and illusory, because there is nothing at all we can have that we will not lose eventually. And so there is always fear.

I've been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened, Mark Twain once said.

Often in close relationships, the subject being discussed is not the subject at all.

I had a very turbulent and painful childhood, like many people. I left for college when I was 16 years old and up until that point I'd lived in five different family configurations. Each one ended or changed through a death or some terrible loss.

A key barometer to help us weigh the rightness of our actions is self-respect.

We also try not to harm others verbally, seeing that our speech has tremendous power. Words do not just leave our mouths and disappear; they have great effects in this world.

When we bring deep awareness to whatever's bothering us, the same things might be happening, but we are able to relate to them differently.

When we feel conflicted about a particular decision or action, our bodies often hold the answer—if we take the time to stop and tune in.

The breath is the first tool for opening the space between the story you tell yourself about love.

Things don't just happen in this world of arising and passing away. We don't live in some kind of crazy, accidental universe. Things happen according to certain laws, laws of nature. Laws such as the law of karma, which teaches us that as a certain seed gets planted, so will that fruit be.

Love seems to open and expand us right down to the cellular level, while fear causes us to contract and withdraw into ourselves.

We long for permanence but everything in the known universe is transient. That's a fact but one we fight.

What we learn in meditation, we can apply to all other realms of our lives.

May the actions that I take toward the good, toward understanding myself, toward being more peaceful be of benefit to all beings everywhere. And.

Self-compassion is like a muscle. The more we practice flexing it, especially when life doesn't go exactly according to plan (a frequent scenario for most of us), the stronger and more resilient our compassion muscle becomes.

The Buddha taught that we can feel pleasure fully, yet without craving or clinging, without defining it as our ultimate happiness. We can feel pain fully without condemning or hating it. And we can experience neutral events by being fully present, so that they are not just fill-in times until something more exciting comes along.

Meditation can be a refuge, but it is not a practice in which real life is ever excluded. The strength of mindfulness is that it enables us to hold difficult thoughts and feelings in a different way—with awareness, balance, and love.

Voting is the expression of our commitment to ourselves, one another, this country and this world.